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I don’t know if God created Humans to Race

October8

so… one of my U14 Girls soccer families includes a son that is stumbling.  one of the Mom’s shared with me a few details. the kid is on a run with bad luck. however, those things change. some times its with a will, more often it’s dealing with the loving hands of a higher power.

but, there is much to be said of attitude.

you don’t need to care about the mom’s soulful and heart-breaking words. my message to her follows. I’ll report back with updates as they are realized.

Hey [REDACTED].

A few ranting points for now, with more specific thinking to follow later:

“Failure” is only realized with a lack of trying. This can mean trying at all, or trying your best.

That said, life tracks to evolution. It’s all about trial-and-error. The entire human race has arrived to our current state due to a lot of failure – more failure than success; but, here we all are. [REDACTED] is too young to be a failure. He has not even tasted enough success for a comparative analysis. Any set-back is a tremendous opportunity to learn and get better. That’s not cliche, it is simple fact.

The irony with much of whom we are as a people is our being referred to as, “the human race”. We compete with one another without rhyme or reason.

I’m a parent too. I fall into the same trap you have. We have expectations for our children. They tend to be a bit undefined. Grades, school, love, competition of all types. The standard for measurement is derived from almost unhuman (I’m not writing, “inhuman”, intentionally) standards. That can be Kardashians, the NFL, Stephen Hawkings, the neighbors kid that got lucky with DNA, or a group of kids that just try harder than everyone else.

Sometimes we gotta slow down. Stop racing. Just listen to our heartbeat. Ask the question, “who am I in this moment?”.

I could be flippant and tell you that [REDACTED] profiles like a decent percentage of .com entrepreneurs. However, that will set the wrong tone.

[REDACTED] must first be able to answer some questions to gain both his footing, and his confidence. Those questions might include:

What are you good at?
What do you want to do (the toughest question EVER).
Who needs you?
Why?
What will you do next?

More later.

I’m happy to meet with [REDACTED].

There will never be an easy answer. His lot may end-up being Biblical. But, his best bet is to be the sort of young man that people ask him what makes him, different.

Brian

P.S… I spent some time living out of my car with my dog, Alex.

who is your Father now

August28

on this earthly plane we often have one Father pulling and another father pushing.

I threw that into an email exchange about our children I was having with the inestimable John Stein, who says thats profound.

I was thinking it was merely apropos. and, based upon growing experience.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

brian patrick cork

Julio Iglesias certainly does Spain on and off

August29

The big news out of Madrid is that Spanish singer Julio Iglesias has married Dutch model Miranda Rijnsburger, his (on-and-off-again) partner for the past 20 years.

The wedding was apparently a big secret.

What is evidently no secret is that the prolific Iglesias is determined to single-handidy increase the population of Spain.

For me, the most interesting element of this fertile story is that Iglesias, who is sixty-six, chose to marry the mother of five of his children. He was previously married  to Isabel Preysler who apparently only managed to have three of his children (evidently there was not enough “on” in this particular on-and-off-again relationship).

Rumor has it that the plucky Rijnsburger was actually narrowly out-birthed by the hapless, and thusly, unmarried, Theodora Ichibotty, who managed a whopping six Iglesias offspring, even though that relationship was clearly “on” a good deal. However, Ichibotty has a left eye that some times rolls back into her head – apparently the direct result of cranial pressure from too much baering-down. This apparently affected her ability to view Iglesias’ concerts or see him coming when he needed things to be “on”.

The wedding took place at the Virgen del Carmen church in the southern jet-set resort of Marbella.

Rev. Roberto Rojo Aguado, one of three priests who celebrated the ceremony (because one was clearly not enough), told The Associated Press on Friday that the couple were married Tuesday. He said the ceremony was attended by only two witnesses (about the size of his current fan base) – and, the couple’s five children.

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

kids can't be Sinners

March21

As “they” say: “you’re only as happy as your most unhappy kid”.

My little Emma Jo is learning how to use email. She has her own .me (Apple) account, and is rather focused and demanding when it comes to protocol. For example, I will likely receive a call on my cellular telephone this afternoon from a potentially irate Emma Jo minutes after she launches a communique:

“Daddy, I sent you an email how come you didnot send me one?”

However, this will certainly present itself with an opportunity and an invitation out for ice cream at Bruesters, some hand-holding and possibly roller skating. So, mine is the advantage, to be sure.

As many of you know, Haley Anne is embroiled in a revolution, of sorts, at her Middle school. She was also recently named as a captain on her soccer team. Additional strain on her emerging thirteen year old psyche includes a titanic effort to improve her grades (especially math and social studies) in order to qualify for a new cellular telephone (the current model apparently is not feature rich enough). All this while her heart is breaking over the broken relationship with her erstwhile best friend:

“Daddy I didn’t think she could be so mean!”

[…just wait my love. There is so much grand adventure, promise and heartbreak ahead. And, I want to be there, just off of your shoulder, every step of the way.]

Every earthly father must see the visage of an angel in the face(s) of our beloved (oh, unyielding cherish!) daughters. They can never represent anything but the best that life can promise – all the while inspiring unseemly fear in our hearts around events uncertain. I must trust that my role in Haley Anne and Emma Jo’s lives will offer it’s lasting impressions. And, I can trust their judgment (Haley Anne’s, anyway with Emma Jo only seven). I have only the requirement that holds me true to my own course – and ever vigilant reminder to reflect and represent and lead, some how, by example.

Stay tuned.

I love being a Dad.

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

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