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Brian Patrick Cork is living the Authentic Life

evidently God trusts me

July9

It’s no secret that I got my butt seriously kicked in Colorado.

There was a period of time where it felt like God was taking so many things away from me and my family.

It would have been so much easier to duck and not be accountable. My partners took that path. But, I held firm in my belief of self and some form of unrealized potential for good. I faced a daily Kobayashi Maru. There was no sense of righteousness, mind you. Just a steely resolve to do what felt right. And, I learned there is a vital difference. And, perhaps thusly, began my own path understanding God’s gift of discernment.

I’m grateful for the pain, much of it burned into the back of my head; the wound fresh and itchy, as if it all happened just yesterday. The hollowness in the pit of my stomach a constant reminder of what I don’t want to be; and, what I can be.

Today, if I’m judged in an unfavorable light, I probably don’t “see” it because I am surrounded by so many good people and great opportunities. My Grandad – and, you’ve read a lot about him on this Blog – said: “if you are going to judge a man, do it by those around him”.

All of my experiences – the good, and the seemingly bad, have prepared me in the form of what God needs me to be, to help other men (I’m a surfer, so everyone’s a dude), make ever-better decisions, and realize their own potential. It’s part of living an authentic life.

So, God puts good men in my hands because I think he pushed me hard; he tested me and my mettle – and he trusts me.

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

pillaging ministries for Prophet

February21

So…

I may well have the coolest job in the world. I might shy away from referring to it as a “calling”. But, I really enjoy the work I do. And, I see evidence, daily, that it’s meaningful.

There are many aspects to what I do. But, relevant to the line-of-thinking tied to this post is my efforts around and through men who start businesses from a “best practices” standpoint – and, also ministries (which are a form of business, but not necessarily oriented around best practices).

I’m guessing I’ll discuss that latter topic on a broader scale later (the list of topics I ache to share is endless, and my energy boundless).

But, readers of this Blog already know that.

In any event, I’m going to share a brief exchange I’ve had in the last twenty four hours with John. He is my good and dear friend. He is struggling. But, it’s a healthy and worthy (possibly noble) form of struggle. It’s cool being around it. Especially having the sense that’s it’s going to end well.

By the way… And, don’t bother rolling your eyes… John is likely a kind of Prophet. And, like many Biblically-oriented figures he often can’t heal himself. But, like any good flame, good things could be drawn to it.

Is this John’s Kobayashi Maru? Or, is my role in walking with such men an example of that un-winnable test always demonstrating, and proves, character development is the best result?

In any event, here’s the exchange. Make of it what you will, or must. I certainly will. In fact, I’ve already started thinking about drawing lines of corollary  thought relative to Charles Darwin, men who think they should start ministries, and the gene-pool (this does not include John).

On Feb 18, 2010, at 6:46 PM, John XXXX wrote:

“Thoughts on doing both e29 and ministry?

Does my passion for ministry exclude the need for work? Is ministry the work?

Ideas coming to mind? You know me and know my heart.  And, you will speak candidly to me.

That’s what I need right now.

Peace & Favor,

John”

What came to my mind, and from my heart:

“I’ve always felt that good work was a form of Ministry in it’s own right.

Show me a man who is evangelistic over his products and services, and you’ll see a man on fire in the belief that he is helping people, supporting his family, and honoring God in more ways than I could describe in this email.

I might humbly use myself as an example. I see evidence, every day, that I am making a keen difference in the lives of good people around me. My own daughter describes my work simply as: “Daddy helps people”.

You know… The Nordic (because there were several varieties) Vikings believed that Valhalla was a  place you went to fight, drink and wench for eternity. This was a reward for doing great work (pillaging was more a hobby) on earth using the skills and strength God (in a manner of speaking) gave them.

…maybe… Just maybe, one reason Ministries fail more often than even secular business startups is because the instigators start on the wrong foot with poorly formed financial models, certainly flawed market validation, and  – and worse, desires.”

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

God gave me Daughters. What did He give You?

January29

Matt Rosenhaft recently commented on our business Blog (its true… we have one of those. it’s simply not as much fun) [you’ll notice, perhaps, that I’m not even linking from this post to that business Blog] that:

“As for Brian, those of us who know him, know that he practices the “give to get” model religiously. It is the core of his being. At the same time, he runs a business so it would be natural to reference an example of something that he practices for himself in his business in his personal blog. His personal blog is about what he is thinking and his observations on life.”

Matt (whom defines Cerebral) [by the way… I like Matt, quite a bit] had a lot more in mind while crafting that comment than I’ll give him credit for in this post. The point I’m trying to affirm is that, what you read in my personal Blog, is what I’m thinking about. And, even though this preamble might have suggested I was building up to something meaningful, possibly significant, I’m not.

Today, it’s about that which should be obvious.

Tonight is the annual Daughters and Daddy Dance at the Intercontinental Hotel. This is a very big event in the Cork household. This is mostly about Emma Jo and myself (but, Mommy needs to help A LOT). The tradition includes a lot of excited discussion, planning, the weekend trip to the dress shop for a new dress, and accessories, the hair dressers (is that what’s it’s still called?), getting nails done, making sure Daddy wears a tie that matches the dress, buying shoes that can be taken off as soon as we hit the hotel ball room, etc.

For a few magical hours it’s all me and Emma Jo. I’m the center of her universe (and, she is the core of my own).

Many fathers speak of how quickly these times come and go. They mourn, often while the daughter is still very young, how they lost track, and how they failed to connect with their girls. I often discuss, on this Blog, how I feel God’s greatest gift to us is discernment. But, that discernment is often best utilized to enjoy an almost equal gift – which is having a little girl that absolutely adores you for no other reason than you have the absolute privilege of being her Daddy. Little boys are smelly. But, daughters are always Princesses. Well… At least in my house, always.

How many of you are reading this post, and there are thousands of you, and only now comprehending that you aren’t going to a Daughters and Daddy Dance?

Maybe it’s not too late.

Consider leveraging that discernment outside of business, and addressing your daughters. I promise you, the rewards will eclipse, by naught less than a HUGE margin, any satisfaction you realize from a business transaction, or a frakking round of golf.

By the way… I’m fairly confident that I know most of the Selena Gomez and Miley Cyrus songs. And, I’m ready to dance to every single one of them this evening.

UPDATE: Read the comments of this post. Man… What a perspective. Thank you Gary, really.

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

many things Are not Pointless

January13

So…

It’s been nip-and-tuck on this Blog going on two days now over my last post: there might be demons and there are ALWAYS questions.

It’s particularly ferocious doings in the comments sections with my Christian brothers Drew, George and John game-fully wading in, hearts fully exposed (I am not, by definition, a Christian, but they are still my brothers).

However, under his own steam, the inestimable Aaron Masih (a warrior, in any light) has set forth his views on his Blog: A Life of Passion. The post is called: The Struggle Worth Having.

I’ll suggest you consider reading it, within it’s entirety.

Do it!

Just to wet your appetite – following was my own comment, under that worthy effort:

“I think I’m honored.

God issued me discernment. And, with it a keen desire to live my life in a way that glorifies everything that I can recognize around me. I used to refer to this as living my life like Christ. But, as time went by I felt like that was similar to wearing a medal I had not earned. There is, not so simply, a bar, some how set.

So, living by that code, while remaining uncertain about, how and where, I might end-up sometimes feels like standing on the ledge preparing to tower jump.

But, some how I think I’m going to make it – because it wasn’t me that created wind that can be used to offset gravity.”

And, I have such terrific friends, “good men in a storm”, to be sure, standing by to break my fall.

There is virtu, here. And, fortuna! Yes, Dr. Pappas, my worlds converge. My hunger naught but builds to not only learn, but to truly, I say, understand.

Readers of this Blog, rally to me – give me that word! …if it isn’t understanding.

Peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

Brian Patrick Cork

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