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I don’t know if God created Humans to Race

October8

so… one of my U14 Girls soccer families includes a son that is stumbling.  one of the Mom’s shared with me a few details. the kid is on a run with bad luck. however, those things change. some times its with a will, more often it’s dealing with the loving hands of a higher power.

but, there is much to be said of attitude.

you don’t need to care about the mom’s soulful and heart-breaking words. my message to her follows. I’ll report back with updates as they are realized.

Hey [REDACTED].

A few ranting points for now, with more specific thinking to follow later:

“Failure” is only realized with a lack of trying. This can mean trying at all, or trying your best.

That said, life tracks to evolution. It’s all about trial-and-error. The entire human race has arrived to our current state due to a lot of failure – more failure than success; but, here we all are. [REDACTED] is too young to be a failure. He has not even tasted enough success for a comparative analysis. Any set-back is a tremendous opportunity to learn and get better. That’s not cliche, it is simple fact.

The irony with much of whom we are as a people is our being referred to as, “the human race”. We compete with one another without rhyme or reason.

I’m a parent too. I fall into the same trap you have. We have expectations for our children. They tend to be a bit undefined. Grades, school, love, competition of all types. The standard for measurement is derived from almost unhuman (I’m not writing, “inhuman”, intentionally) standards. That can be Kardashians, the NFL, Stephen Hawkings, the neighbors kid that got lucky with DNA, or a group of kids that just try harder than everyone else.

Sometimes we gotta slow down. Stop racing. Just listen to our heartbeat. Ask the question, “who am I in this moment?”.

I could be flippant and tell you that [REDACTED] profiles like a decent percentage of .com entrepreneurs. However, that will set the wrong tone.

[REDACTED] must first be able to answer some questions to gain both his footing, and his confidence. Those questions might include:

What are you good at?
What do you want to do (the toughest question EVER).
Who needs you?
Why?
What will you do next?

More later.

I’m happy to meet with [REDACTED].

There will never be an easy answer. His lot may end-up being Biblical. But, his best bet is to be the sort of young man that people ask him what makes him, different.

Brian

P.S… I spent some time living out of my car with my dog, Alex.

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who is your Father now

August28

on this earthly plane we often have one Father pulling and another father pushing.

I threw that into an email exchange about our children I was having with the inestimable John Stein, who says thats profound.

I was thinking it was merely apropos. and, based upon growing experience.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

brian patrick cork

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Calvin Coolidge and Instincts, Convictions, and Best Practices

August15

I was recently asked, “why would you care about someone like Calvin Coolidge?”

perhaps one reason the question was asked was because we were discussing Thomas Jefferson, and how the geo-political stage is so different today, set for Hilary Clinton (I’m just throwing that out there…), as compared to the era of our Founding Fathers.

earlier this week I published:

Instincts, Convictions, and Best Practices by brian patrick cork
Published on Linkedin August 12, 2014

it is dangerous to make decisions based on pleasing people. when we please the person in front of us and then change directions to please the next person we encounter, we’re not living according to moral convictions. we’re choosing what’s easy in the moment rather than being fully committed to righteousness.

for a vital point-of-reference ponder Revelations 3:16.

outside of Revelations here is a book that might find itself an example of my point, today:

Johnson, Charles C. (2013-03-12). Why Coolidge Matters: Leadership Lessons from America’s Most Underrated President.

Excerpts and thinking:

with vital input from George Landolt.

it was the legislators’ “solemn duty” to “think last of themselves.” Otherwise their decisions would “lack authority.” Calvin Coolidge wished to protect the legislature from itself and to guarantee that a republican spirit would continue in the state’s government.

although he had stood fast against attempts to raise the salaries of legislators, Coolidge favored increasing them for schoolteachers, believing that bad teachers would imperil republican government by failing to teach the convictions essential for republican life. He also exalted good teachers throughout his career.

as vice president, he said: The standards which teachers are required to maintain are continually rising. their work takes on a new dignity. it is rising above a calling, above a profession, into the realm of art. it must be dignified by technical training, ennobled by character, and sanctified by faith.

so…

for the most part, every president has their own rap. some have rhythm, others a dark legacy. but, every man (until Hilary) got that office based on merit that was needed at the time. circumstances change, and that platform often creates an unkind legacy.

Coolidge was something of an intellectual. He was not interested in politics. he wanted to make a point. he had money and influence. he was probably more of a throw-back that values the role of a founding father. I suspect he was be a fan of Thomas Jefferson. thusly, he had few friends. that said, he was a champion for important threads in the fabric of our culture and society.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

brian patrick cork

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cancer is NOT a journey

August10

there exists a walking and waking nightmare. its a perilous path that requires us to be ever vigilant, and ready, willing and able to thumb Satan in his blood-shot pale eyes.

spare me the platitudes and existentialist bull-shit. cancer is not a journey.

Thursday was Joanne’s fourth chemotherapy session, and mid-point for the course. that is always followed by a Nuestra shot to increase her white blood cell count. interestingly, that ends-up being the most painful part of the treatment. listening to her description of the pain, it sounds like what The Wolverine must go through when he deploys his talons and/ or regenerates.

that said, she is tough as Wolverine; any super hero, to be certain.

the good news is that the cancer is evidently not in the lymph-nodes. we caught this bitch early and we responded with pace and a sense of purpose. I recruited, petitioned and secured the best surgical and oncology team in the Southeast. the two masses have apparently responded well to chemotherapy. thusly, her prognosis is good. if we remain on-plan, we have the BIG surgery November 6th. hopefully we are in the recovery and healing phase by mid-December.

me? I am restless. resolute. exhausted. encouraged. relieved that my daughters seem to find comfort in me. I miss my wife. she has already told me nothing is going to be the same. I’ve never loved her more. I can’t ever be more angry at something else, ever again. thank God for modern medicine, and my Jeep – oh… and a sense of purpose to stay fit, and, possibly, sane.

go read another and prior post of mine: http://www.unsinkablebriancork.com/2013/03/08/riding-that-big-glassy-fronted-wave-of-life/ do it!

“live your life darling. all of it. question everything. accept nothing.” – Barbara Anne Cork, Wife to one, Mother to all

mere survival is not an option. this must be about “thrival”. I made that up; but will see it through.

UPDATE:

when this episodic travesty finds it’s end, Chuck Papageorgiou is taking me fishing.

also… Denis McDonough, himself, and politics aside, says he wants to sit quietly with me and smoke a very good cigar.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters

brian patrick cork

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