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December14

Your being on this particular email distribution indicates you have been tracking our family through Joanne’s fight with breast cancer. Your unwavering love and support has been terrific, and our gratitude has no measure.

Its been five weeks this very day since Joanne had the double mastectomy and reconstruction surgeries. As many of you know or can surmise, we were extremely fortunate having both procedures accomplished on the same table. It was a very long day, but both surgeons were outright triumphant when they found me in the recovery waiting room. Our primary surgeon was evidently VERY aggressive with surrounding tissue, but only took five nodes for testing. With all that, she was confident she accomplished our objective. I then managed to break protocol and snuck into the corridor that led from the surgical theater, so I was able to greet a decidedly dazed Joanne almost straight away. I had not relished holding her hand more since the day she agreed to go on a first date with me, and the moment she accepted my proposal of marriage, and when we brought our children into this world.

Over Thanksgiving, Audra, the Godmother of our daughters (her daughter, our God daughter, is a sophomore at Emory University, here in Atlanta) came out for a week, traveling from New Hampshire, and cooked a magnificent celebratory dinner. Terrific food and family. That week we received word that Joanne’s pathology report is clear. Joanne and Audra visited with both the surgeon and oncologist for follow-up reports where they confirmed the pathology. By God, it was one of the sweetest weeks of my life.

We are looking great and can now officially focus on healing. Joanne is still quite sore with limited range-of-motion. So, we begin therapy soon. She’s a bit self-conscious over her hair. I think she is lovely with a well-shaped head and the whole affect makes her gorgeous big brown eyes pop. But, its not looking good for the Christmas party circuit this year. NOTE: Many of you will be relieved that as Joanne’s hair began to grow back, I finally cut my own. It was shoulder length and shaggy. However, the stand and effort were made with good affect. I’ll also add that forty of my buddies also finally shaved – to the collective and immense relief of their own spouses.

More good news is that our oldest daughter Haley Anne has been accepted to Alabama. Roll Tide! The only thing that might stop her is an offer letter from Ole Miss. In addition to that, I’ve been accepted into Georgia Institute of Technology to pursue a double Master of Science in Human-Computer Interaction and Master of Science in Enterprise Transformation. These will set-the-stage for the pursuit of my PhD in Technology Transformation (and, hopefully teaching in my fourth season of life).

These are important milestones and signals that life is circling back around and reminding us that we must needs continue to be grateful at every turn, and prepared to give back to anyone that we can. A fascinating aspect of this ordeal is the community of cancer. Joanne has been befriended by numerous other women that have muscled through similar fights. Now, in-turn, she often finds herself supporting others. Along the way we have both forged meaningful friendships and relationships with a host of people that we might have never known but for the ordeal. Blessings come wrapped in the oddest form of package.

Merry Christmas. Happy Holiday. And, Happy New Year.

- Brian Patrick Cork

Walker Percy Might Recognize The Kardashians

October9

just so we are clear, Greg is my earthly brother. rumor has it we share the same set of parents. there are of course, other, and competing rumors – and innuendo. according to one of my God Mothers, Clare, I was a “ma-tai baby and there were witnesses”. however, it all pales compared to the vale, and in the scheme of most things. Greg was a brilliant High School student and then road Walker Percy relentlessly through University.

NOTE: some of this (that which follows; that which precedes, not at all, as far as we know) is lifted from a recent exchange with Barry Morrow (I like the manner in which he conducts his own pen) in my recent exchange with Greg (not Barry. however, that did lead to some activity like lively email exchanges and invitations to eat hamburgers).

Greg:

I’ve long been a “poser” regarding Walker Percy. When you drop the name people appear alarmed, go bug-eyed, or nod wisely as though we are, together, on to something. But, no one ever pursues (rather like thinking about sex while staring through a windshield driving your in-laws to the airport). Interpretation of his efforts seem to evolve with ones own life perspective. Oddly, perhaps, I equate that with efforts around the Bible. I’m better off listening to other people that can make lots of [better formed] apologies.

A friend of mine, Barry Morrow (he is lovely and tortured), has quoted Percy a lot, and especially from The Moviegoer, in his own first book, Heaven Observed. There are lots of existential questions that run throughout the book, like why a man can feel more at home during a tornado, rather than the typical malaise that enshrouds him when everything is provided to him, at ease in Zion. Very much like Solomon in Ecclesiastes. And, us.

In any event, when I eat a hamburger with Barry I tend to think of you. It’s good (Barry, the burgers, and you).

Much love.

– Brian

on another NOTE... The Movie Goer is much too sublime for Wikipedia and reference. however, it would make for a terrific television series. I would make my daughters watch it with me. anything is better than all things Kardashian. Go figure. No… Go forth! As you might in the Biblical sense.

who is your Father now

August28

on this earthly plane we often have one Father pulling and another father pushing.

I threw that into an email exchange about our children I was having with the inestimable John Stein, who says thats profound.

I was thinking it was merely apropos. and, based upon growing experience.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

brian patrick cork

Life and Monty Python as the Lens … oh, and Kevin

July3

so… here’s the drill…

Darrah Bruestein is brilliant. she’s the type of young lady I THINK I want my own daughters to aspire. Darrah might make being under forty seem cool.

that said, we were exchanging emails over a work-related introduction and I was stunned (yes, stunned; and, therefore borderline flabbergasted) to learn she was fundamentally unaware of the “pinching heads” tactic made famous by the Monty Python (Flying Circus) troupe.

I explained it to her, thusly:

monty python Flying circus“It was a theme throughout the Monty Python skits (they went on for years). I THINK it was featured in the film, And Now for Something Completely Different. That film is not to be confused with another, The Life of Brian (however, for it’s perspective, you have to appreciate, “Life’s a piece of shit, once you think of it…”.).

Monty Python does not strike everyone as funny, just enlightened folk; or people that can ably point to The Young Ones (even more British comedy) and die from laughing due to lack of oxygen.

All that said, you can stand, or sit, at a distance and “pinch peoples little heads”. Its a control thing. It genuinely unnerves some people. Dogs also. Cats not so much. Our hamster Kevin could care less. He’s an insidious bastard, though. Don’t try it with chimpanzees. Seriously.”

I’ll note, here, that you’ve not lived until you have seen a fat hamster investigate a house from the inside of a plastic ball. every time I walk into the laundry room where we keep his habitat, I find him poised in the corner staring at me. I imagine all manner of schemes percolating in his little head behind those beady little eyes. I suspect Kevin might be a contrarian. someone needs to make a movie about such exploits. a blog is necessary, perhaps.

peace be to my Brothers and Sisters.

brian patrick cork

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